If you are having thoughts about ending your life, are feeling overwhelmed or unable to cope, or are concerned about someone else’s safety, PLEASE talk to somebody: this could be a friend, family member, colleague, GP or any medical professional.
Never feel ashamed or embarrassed to ask for help. You immediately become a stronger person just by speaking out. By telling someone about your current state of mind while you’re in a crisis you immediately gain the power of having a fighter on board with you, of having someone on your team to help you tackle your crisis. Then once you’re out of danger you can seek the support you need to get into a better mental space and can organise the appropriate short-term and long-term treatments, therapies and tactics that will support you through crisis resolution and beyond. But you NEED to reach out for help to fall into place.
Trust me on this: it’s far better to have a load of sane/sensible people on your team when you feel like you’ve lost your mind, rather than being locked in a room with a monster that wants to kill you when you’re alone and vulnerable and can’t give your best fight: that just isn’t fair. Everyone that loves you wants you to win that fight, but it’s pretty tricky for anyone to know that you’re locked in that damn room if you haven’t told anyone. So you HAVE to draft in your back-up! You deserve a fair fight! Give yourself a chance!
And I know those phone calls are scary and horrible and are the last thing you think you can do when you just want to disappear but you CAN, I’m telling you that you CAN. Even if you don’t physically speak to someone, you can tell a partner or close friend that if you give them 4 “drop-calls” then that means you’re in trouble and need help urgently. Or you can have a “dangerword”, sort of like a safeword, a random pre-agreed word that you can text someone if you’re self-destructing or have self-harmed in any way. That way an ambulance can be sent without you having to answer any scary questions to dispatchers or whomever.
You must be brave. One phone call or text or email, and you can get all kinds of support breaking that door down, people who are ready and willing to punch your demons in the face and get you somewhere safe. You just have to speak up, just once. It could save your life or someone else’s.
Samaritans – 116 123
Free & confidential, 24 hours, 7 days a week
HopeLine UK – 0800 068 4141
Mind – www.mind.org.uk
United States of America:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255
Text 741741 from anywhere in the USA to text with a trained crisis counselor.
Of course, you can always phone your national emergency number as well. Don’t ever feel like your mental health “isn’t a real emergency” because feeling like you’re going to kill somebody, whether that’s yourself or a stranger, is just as serious and is just as much of an emergency as treating a heart attack or stabbing. Suicide is an emergency, self-harm is an emergency, they are trained emergency services: that’s what they’re there for.
Whatever country you’re in, if you’re feeling suicidal and don’t know where to find help, who to phone or where to find support in your city, please email me: firstname.lastname@example.org
I will endeavour to find out the address of your nearest crisis centre or give you the hotline number for your area. I will do this as soon as humanly possible although please don’t rely solely on me for this (time-differences and lack of internet connection may mean I can’t get back to you right away).
You are never alone, no matter how much it feels like you are.
You are braver today than you were yesterday and you are a survivor.
One day at a time. Stay safe xxx